While browsing through videos on YouTube, I encountered these “I am Second” videos. It caught my interest, so I watched it. The first video I started watching was this woman who talked about her battle with low self-esteem. She told her story about a life she lived before, filled with self hatred. She started not eating right, not wanting to gain weight because it was programmed in her mind that she needed to be perfect to be accepted.
Why are we so obsessed with attaining perfection? Why have we been so accustomed to fitting ourselves into society’s box of acceptables? As I’m writing this, I’m watching another “I am Second” video. It brings me so much sadness to hear these painful stories from such beautiful women. Why do we keep trying to get ourselves accepted and appreciated by everyone else, when really, we should be focused on celebrating the masterpiece God has made, staring right at you in the mirror.
Reality is, no one’s perfect. Sure, you may think that there are far more beautiful and better people out there, but do you think another’s beauty makes you ugly? No. This isn’t a contest. Stop trying to make your life a beauty pageant. Be your own beauty queen! Don’t let another person’s opinion of what is beautiful, distort your appreciation for yourself. You’re you and that’s beautiful. Done. Period. Let us not associate beauty with perfection. There’s only one perfect being we can look up to, and that’s God.
Now see, I’m no hypocrite. I’ve had a lot of those moments when I find myself just avoiding mirrors. But see that’s the problem, we tend to magnify the things we don’t like about ourselves when in reality, so much of our beauty is left unappreciated.
I had this photo shoot with my friend, Sammie Masigan, and as I looked at my photos after she had sent them to me, I realized that I will never be able to please everyone. There is and will be a lot of people who would hate how I look. But who cares? I like myself. No, scratch that. I love myself! And as I kept on looking at myself in the photos, it was like God was affirming me that there is nothing to hate. I have a lot of imperfections but hey, that’s part of who I am and my God loves me just as I am! And that’s the only thing that matters. 🙂
I encourage you, the next time you look in the mirror and you’re tempted to go on a self loathing spree again, just stop. You should not treat yourself that way. See yourself through God’s eyes and believe in His truth:
1. You are beautiful.
2. You have been, are, and always will be more than enough for Him.
The End. 🙂