Guuuurl, I’m not here to comfort you, wrap you up in a warm cozy blanket and feed you sugarcoated vague advice. I’m here to give you facts. I’m here to give you the truth. Now let’s get going.
YOU CHEATED TOO
I know right!? What the heck am I talking about? Well the thing is, maybe you cheated on yourself too. You could have the best relationship ever but you cheated on yourself by choosing the easy route and entered a so-so relationship.
A so-so relationship is one you entered cause you were longing to be loved. Your objective was to be loved and not to love. Sure, you wanted to give love to the person too but because of your underlying unresolved issues, low self-worth, and impatience, the need for love was greater than the desire to give real love. This caused you to depend solely on your bae for affection, attention, and all that comes with the package. By entering a so-so relationship, you were setting yourself up for heartbreak because no human being can ever fill your need for love. Only God can love you wholly.
Also, when you entered your so-so relationship, it did not matter that he did not fit the qualities you wanted in a man. You settled because you just wanted to be loved. Don’t cheat on who God has destined you for with someone average. God always has the best in store for you.
HE JUST DOESN’T LIKE YOU ANYMORE
There comes a point when you spend enough time with a person only to realize that you dislike their guts after all. Maybe he just doesn’t like you anymore. OUCH. But this is the real deal, babe. And you know what? WHO CARES! You can’t please everyone. Even Beyoncé has haters! I mean, right? It’s not a big deal TBH. And why would you wanna be with someone who doesn’t like you? You deserve someone who will choose to love you by striving to find something to like about you every single day.
THIS IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU
I’m not a masochist, just to be clear. I do not find pain pleasurable. Or do I? LOL. Anyway, that’s not the point. You just hit rock bottom and right now there is no way for you but up. Based on my experience, brokenness only propelled me towards progress. When your life is a mess, you only have two options; drown in it or pick-up the pieces and rise above it. I hope you choose the latter. Once you’re done with your dramatic and self-destructive phase, choose to be better. Take care of yourself and love yourself.
Now you finally have time to focus and figure out what you really want; in life and maybe in a man. Now is the time to push yourself to be the strong independent woman you’ve always wanted to be. Be the person that inspires all the other broken hearts to rise above the pain.
Maybe your life sucks right now and all this blabber isn’t making any sense, but trust the process. One step at a time. Just try your best to put one foot in front of the other.
You can do it! Carrie believes in you!